Sunday, November 27, 2011

Post Thanksgiving Weekend

HI! All: 227 on the scale this morning. Sometimes it is like this. When I get in the mood to watch what I eat it takes me a couple of days or longer to get the idea through to my mind. I often gain a few pounds while I'm getting ready.

It's colder now, and so too chilly in the morning to do my early riding, and often I've not  been able to get it in until too late in the day. Therefore, I think I need to begin riding my inside exercise bike. I can push it in front of the TV and watch the Mad Men dvds I borrowed from a friend. That's what I did with Queer Folk when I first discovered it and watched all FIVE seasons!


Here's a post on my Lovesick Diet thread from May 4, 2006:

CellarDweller115

Wow!  I'm totally impressed with your results.  I'm at 224 today, down from 276.  Thanx! for giving us the before and after pix.  Lola's right, you sexy dog!

I'm interested in what changed in your thinking that helped you make the changes, and what went through your mind as you were doing it and when you had challenges.  I think people who read our posts need to hear those kinds of things.  If we have any listening skills at all, we've heard enough about how we should eat and exercise.  The challenge is making the mental change in our thinking that promotes healthy eating and exercise.

One thing that has helped me is that I have a good balance of protein and carbohydrates...the protein helps build lean muscles with exercise, and the carbohydrates provide the fuel for them.  So, in the morning, when I eat my Egg Starts (99% egg whites) with just a little bit of salt, it's not that it's this wonderful omelette that satisfies me...it's just Egg Starts, microwaved in a bowl...but what goes through my mind is that by doing this one thing I'm providing the protein my body needs to build muscle out of the exercise I did at 5:30 this morning.  It's the right thing to do.

Then I eat my oatmeal with blueberries flax seed (for my eyesight) and extra bran.  By the time I get it all mixed up it's not hot anymore.  I use water, not milk, so the taste isn't that grrrr8! but...I'm thinking...an oncologist who gave a noontime lecture last year said 'berries everyday.'  Since then I have tried to do that.  They are sweet and tart and add a little spice to the oatmeal, but by the time I put the flax seed in and the bran, my workmates call it 'gruel.'

But when I'm eating it I'm thinking...the bran is giving me regularity, the berries are protecting against cancer, and the oatmeal is heart healthy...and I don't worry that I make it all in water instead of milk.

This is my breakfast five days a week.  I didn't say us boys are too smart sometimes...but when we find something that works...we work it.

The payoff is now that I've lost 50+ lbs. I'm looking much better and people are commenting on it.  I have a supportive group at work and they like what they see.

I heard something behind me this afternoon at work and when I turned around it was two of my coworkers.  They had WW journals in their hands and said, "We want to do WW and we want you to help us."  I have all 12 weeks of WW booklets and menus, so I spread them all out, we weighed the gals in, I put their weight in my Excel spreadsheet so we can track it, gave them their pick of the books and gave them one thing to think about.  This:  They should have as their first goal a 10% weight loss.  WW and I know there is enough extra water weight and some easy to lose fat that comes off to create that 10% loss.  WW is making millions out of that...I'm just capitalizing on their strategy.  The second 10% is where the WW plan itself kicks in, education, discipline, etc.  However, it is my firm opinion that the reason only 5% of WW lose and keep it off is that something happens in their thinking to cross them over that bridge to do more than the 20%.

That's what Brokeback Mountain has done for me...changed my thinking...I'm coming out as a gay man to someone every week...working up to my family.  I'm kinder to others.  I'm doing all I can here to help the Forum prosper.  I'm making my physical body different as well as my mind.  I'll be forever indebted to this movie.

Bobby



Friday, November 25, 2011

First Post on the Lovesick Diet Thread

 In 2006 when I was starting to figure out how to come out of the closet, I found a web site - The Ultimate Brokeback Mountain Forum. I made wonderful friends there from all over the world. In addition to everything that was happening in my life, I was very unhappy at my weight. I was at 276 lbs. then. So, in order to help lose that weight, I enlisted all of my friends to join me on a special diet thread, The Lovesick Diet thread, on our Forum. Here is my first post:

Hi! All:

I been wanting to start a Brokeback Mountain 'Lovesick' Diet thread for some time.  Some background on my story:  When I first saw Brokeback Mountain is was in late January or early February in 20 minute snatches, late at night after everyone was in bed, on my computer using a pirated downloaded copy...I know, I shouldn't have done it, but....

Then I discovered the Brokeaholics site and my life began to change dramatically.  I found this group of people who loved me just because I came to the Forum...non-judgmental...truly accepting for the first time in my life.  I began posting my sad story of a Brokeback Marriage, and began exploring what it might mean to acknowledge that I am a gay man.  Whew!  That was like birthing an elephant!  Lots of screaming and yelling and grunting...and there I was, this big fat GAY man, weighing in at 276 lbs.

At the same time, I found all of a sudden that I was lovesick...and the best I can explain it is that since I am the same age as the characters in Brokeback Mountain, I was just lovesick for love...the kind they had...the kind I could have had...the kind I CAN have...the kind we all want...oh! the emotions just went through all the extremes.  I was in love with Ennis.  I was in love with Jack.  I was in love with the soundtrack and played it constantly.  I was in love with the scenery.  I was just sick with LOVE!

Then something started to happen.  I began to break out of the old thinking, and start saying to myself, God loves you as you are, I love you as you are, I'm okay.  Soon I began to think differently and decided that I needed to be more attractive in order to attract the kind of people I want to now surround my life with.  So, I got serious about exercise and diet and now, three months later, I've lost 51 lbs..

I'd like to start a thread here where those of us who want to cast off those extra pounds can talk about how we're doing it.  I've dieted for the past 30 years and know all the things I should do.  However, it took the motivation I found here ... to be a better person ... to be someone others might be more comfortable around ... but mostly, to become healthier and happier and make life work better.

What do you say?  Can we swap stories about how we're doing it, and encourage others to do the same?  It's all mental, ya know.

At the same time, if you are completely satisfied with who you are at this point in life, then more power to you, big or little.  I don't want to offend anyone, but if I can be of any assistance to anyone in losing weight or becoming more fit, I'm here for you.  And, by the same token, I hope to continue to learn from you on what you do when the going gets tough.

Things a Friend Keeps in Her Pantry

As I run into things to share, I'll add them to this blog. I asked once what I should keep in the kitchen/pantry and a friend responded with this list. It is from The Ultimate Brokeback Forum, the Lovesick Diet thread that I started in 2006.

Things I keep in the pantry:
PAM or other non-stick cooking spray
Splenda (bulk bag)
Canned diced tomatoes with no sugar added
No-sugar-added jarred tomato sauce (Classico is good!)
whole grain rye crispbread (WASA brand or Ryvita)
brown and/or wild rice (the slow cooking kind)
whole grain pastas
whole wheat flour
canned chick peas and various other canned beans
flax seed meal
Uncle Sam Cereal or All-Bran High Fiber cereal
Old fasioned rolled oats
Heinz One-Carb Ketchup
Solid white tuna in water
unsweetened applesauce for baking
Jello Sugar Free Chocolate Pudding mix (I use cook-and-serve, but instant is good too.)
dried diced onion
spices
EVOO
Dry roasted almonds

[This was just what I could see when I opened the pantry.]

Things I keep in the fridge:
reduced-fat cheddar cheese
reduced-fat feta cheese
Laughing Cow Lite spreadable cheese
Smart balance spread
grated paremsan cheese
balsamic vinegar
cider vinegar
Stony Field Farm Organic fat free plain yogurt
1% cottage cheese
Chunky Natural Peanut butter
fat-free half and half
skim milk
hummus
reduced-fat string cheese
Polaner All-Fruit or Polaner sugar-free preserves
salad makings

I almost always have a container of grilled chicken for tossing into salads or for snacking

What do I see when I go into my kitchen?
A big bowl of fresh fruits
a few bottles of wine in the wine rack
my coffee maker (I couldn't live without that!)
cookbooks up the wazoo!
Food processor
small decanters of Olive and Canola oils next to stove
pepper mill and salt shaker ready for cooking
an empty sink (we try to keep ahead of the dishes)

What can't I do without?
My big skillet with a cover
vegetable steamer insert for my large saucepan
good knife set
garlic press
microwave
coffee maker

Things I would miss the most:
all of the above!

also in the fridge:
lite soy sauce
lite teriyaki sauce
mustard
hot sauce

In the freezer:

frozen berries - all kinds
frozen spinach, green beans, mixed veggies, etc.
turkey sausage - Italian and breakfast
various meats
shrimp
salmon
whole grain pita
whole grain bread and wraps
individual servings of chili and home made soups

Favorite recipes?

I try to keep it simple. One of our favorites is Turkey Burgers.

1 pkg. of lean ground (93%) turkey (16-20 oz.)
2-3 Tbs. of dried minced onion (or fresh)
2 rounded Tbs. grated parmesan cheese
a shake of dried oregano, basil, pepper, (little bit of salt)
garlic - 1 clove fresh minced or 1/2 tsp. garilc powder

Mix it all together and form into burger patties (3-4)
I cook mine on my counter-top George Foreman type grill

They taste pretty good and I use the One-Carb ketchup on top.

Some of the rules I live by now

~I try to avoid anything that has added sugar, especially high-fructose corn syrup

~I count a grain/bread/starch serving as about 30 grams.  this means really reading the packages!  (For pasta that means a little less than half a cup cooked - I fill in with lots of veggies and serve it with a hearty sauce.)

~I ate 3 servings of grain/bread/starch per day on the weight loss phase (I am a smallish woman) and have raised it to 4 now that I am in maintenance.

~When I eat fruit I always eat some protein and/or a whole grain with it.

~I make my pudding with skim milk and immediately divide it into 1/2 cup containers (4 per box of mix) I allow myself one per day.  I swirl a rounded teaspoon of natural pnb into it for a treat and it stays with me longer.

~I eat breakfast every day, no exceptions.  Usually 1 c. plain fat-free yogurt, fruit, cereal (1/2 cup) and an egg or other protein)

~I always cook more food than we can eat in one meal and put the extra into containers before we eat to save for another meal.  Sometimes it goes in the freezer, other times we may eat it the next day.  It's portion control that's the key.

~a serving of nuts is roughly 15 almonds, 20 peanuts, and counts as a protein and a fat.

~Meals are well-rounded.  (For me a ratio of 3-1, vegetables to protein, with a whole grain at lunch and dinner works best)

~each meal includes a serving (up to 1 Tbs.) of good oil - olive, canola, or nut oils.  This means that when I'm planning on swirling peanut butter into my pudding, I have less fat a the meal preceding it.

~Planning is everything!  I try not to let myself come home starving to a fridge with nothing in it that I can eat immediately.  There are always some cooked vegetables, raw vegetables and hummus, cottage cheese, etc. in there to take the edge off while I prepare dinner.


There are more, but none come to mind at the moment.  They are so ingrained at this point that I do them automatically.  This is only what works for me, and I arrived at it by doing research and experimenting.  You will find what works best for you too.

I hope this is helpful and not too long-winded.  It has helped me to put it down here as I have never done that before!

Whole grain:  For a bread/cracker/pasta to be whole grain the first ingredient on the list should read "whole grain" whatever.   If the list contains any "enriched wheat flour" or just "wheat flour" it is not whole grain.  

Pantry

pasta
rice (parboiled and brown)
canned tomatoes
olive oil
sunflower oil
vinegars (plain, red-wine, balsamico)
dried lentils
dried chickpeas
unsweetened cereal


Condiments

Salt
Pepper
Paprika
dried herbs (+ fresh herbs on window sill and garden) (oregano, marjoram, thyme, coriander, dill, rosemary)
curry
cumin
ground ginger
ground coriander


Fridge

Milk
selection of fresh veggies
onions
cheese
soy sauce

Outside fridge

garlic
tomatoes

Tools

good sharp knives & chopping boards
strainer/sieve
salad dryer
garlic press
grater in various sizes, alternatively a good food processor that will do chopping, mixing, grating and fruit smoothies!
wok
non-stick frying pans in several sizes, with lids
saucepans in several sizes
spatulas
my beloved teapot (plus teabag clips for fixing my open teabags)
A pasta spoon for serving pasta, also other big spoons for serving


My favourite recipes?
For everyday meals things that are quick, a lot of the time pasta with veggies. While the pasta are cooking I chop and fry/cook veggies and make a sauce of them. With using different veggies and a different seasoning you can produce a great variety of tastes that way.
A lovely alternative to sprinkling parmesan cheese over it is putting a spoonful of plain yoghurt on top of pasta & sauce.




New Beginning!

Today is Friday, Black Friday, the day after Thanksgiving. It is time for a new beginning on the weight loss front. I'm going to use Slim & Sassy to help me metabolically regain some composure in this area. I've tried it before in short 'burst' of dieting, but now I'd like to make it a staple in my efforts to maintain a good body weight for my age and condition in life.

This morning I put several drops in my oats. It is interesting. If I do it after they have been cooked in the microwave, the aroma from the oats enters my nostrils and my eyes and is not pleasant. So, I've added it before the cooking. That might help.

I hope to be able to add to this blog on a daily/regular basis for awhile until I get everything underway again.








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